The majority of the time, I really like being a grownup. I like being able to eat a candy bar and diet coke for breakfast once in a while, or not making my bed if I don't feel like it, or staying in my pajamas all day just because. But the one thing I don't like about being a grownup, not one little itty bitty bit, is making the big decisions. You know the kind, the ones that will affect the future of yourself, your spouse, your kids, your sanity....those kinds of decisions.
During the course of our 7 year marriage, Nate and I have become quite talented at making the wrong decisions, turning down the wrong road, finding all the dead ends, etc. So, lately we've been thinking we may be at another one of those dead ends, but we're not sure. It's so hard to decide whether to stay on this road and hope that it's really not a dead end, just one of those sharp 'T' turns that sometimes looks like a dead end, or to go down another road that could be better, but might not.
We're doing everything we know how to make the right choice. Prayer, temple, studying out all the possibilities. I think the change could be a very good thing, but it could also be a very hard thing and it's so much easier to stay with what you know. Change can be so scary when you're facing the unknown and you're not sure if there will be anything there to catch you when you jump off the cliff of the comfortable. Will you land on a soft bed of clouds and sunshine, or will you just keep falling?
If you happen to have found the foolproof method for making the right decisions, please enlighten me. I will be forever in your debt.
5 comments:
I know exacatly what you mean! Jared and I just made a hard decision with his work and we are still waiting to see if it will take us in the right direction! Oh life! Good luck! You are doing everything right, so keep the faith...God will see you thru it.
toin coss, rock paper scissors, ennie meenie, oh Ashley, the list goes on, I cannot believe you didnt know about these Proven Decission making stratigies! ;)
Big discision making sucks sometimes. Sometimes you already know what you should do, you just keep waiting for a huge confirmation before you go ahead with it (like, when we both had the thought to have another baby, even though we were unemployed and wanted to wait another year). But sometimes you just have to be patient before you get your answer. Good luck!
We've been talking about that this week. Some of the big decisions we've made, now we're doubting if they were right. It's so hard to decide what to do. I would love to have a crystal ball that gives me all the answers! I've always found that doing exactly what you're doing is best, put your faith in the Lord and he'll take care of you! Keep having faith!
david and i jumped both feet first... we were unemployed for a long time and we were doing everything we could do and we finally said "lord we don't know what to do, so we're doing this, if it's wrong please help us to know" and i'm not saying everything is perfect but theres nothing like the feeling you get when you know that its right for you and your family
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